Team shortlist26 Jul 2017 AT 11:56 AM

Instagram is loving Emirati couple's marriage advice

*Passes the tissue box around*
Team shortlist26 Jul 2017 AT 11:56 AM
UAE, Khalid Al Ameri, Salama Al Ameri
© Instagram/khalidalameri
UAE, Khalid Al Ameri, Salama Al Ameri
© Instagram/khalidalameri

Emirati influencers Khalid and Salama are total #relationshipgoals.

So it came as a shock to fans when Khalid, who’s a columnist and motivational speaker, announced that the two found themselves questioning their relationship after unnoticeably growing apart.

Fortunately for us – and them, it is their relationship after all – the two managed to rekindle their relationship by putting their love for each other first.

Khalid, who has been married to Salama for ten years, explained just how they did this on his official Instagram account @khalidalameri.

“For so long Salama and I's marriage wasn't our marriage, it was everyone else's, it was relatives who told us what was best, it was "friends" who told us what we should do to come out the strongest amongst each other, it was people we didn't even know that we were trying to be like because they fit in. We grew so far apart that we no longer knew why were together, it was the lowest point of our marriage, until we decided to try something new, and that was to put ourselves and our love for each other first, and everything else second.

“We were going to do what we felt was right, we were going to do what brought us closer together, we were going to do what made us happy regardless of what other people said or thought about us.

“We turned off the noise. It was the single greatest thing we did for our relationship, we made our marriage our marriage, and nobody else's, because at the end of the day we are the ones who came together to build a life with each other. We are the ones who wake up and go to sleep next to each other every day and every night, we are the ones who want to be together for the rest of our lives, just us together, with a love stronger that the noise of others.”

The moving quote was accompanied by an equally touching snap of the two watching the waves roll in at Califorina’s Montara State Beach.

The Prophet Muhammed ﷺ said "There is nothing like marriage, for two who love each other". This line made me think about the love between two people when they get married and the things that can get in the way of that love. __ I think the greatest thing you can do for yourself and for your relationship is to silence the noise. The noise being everything that people tell you that doesn't feel right in your heart, everything that doesn't help you grow as a person, and everything that doesn't help you get closer to the people you love. __ For so long Salama and I's marriage wasn't our marriage, it was everyone else's, it was relatives who told us what was best, it was "friends" who told us what we should do come out the strongest amongst each other, it was people we didn't even know that we were trying to be like because they fit in. __ We grew so far apart that we no longer knew why were together, it was the lowest point of our marriage, until we decided to try something new, and that was to put ourselves and our love for each other first, and everything else second. We were going to do what we felt was right, we were going to do what brought us closer together, we were going to do what made us happy regardless of what other people said or thought about us. We turned off the noise. __ It was the single greatest thing we did for our relationship, we made our marriage our marriage, and nobody else's, because at the end of the day we are the ones who came together to build a life with each other, we are the ones who wake up and go to sleep next to each other every day and every night, we are the ones who want to be together for the rest of our lives, just us together, with a love stronger that the noise of others. الحمدلله

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This isn’t the first time that Khalid has dished out his tips on how to make a marriage work, the columnist has an entire blog post dedicated to the topic.

According to Khalid, compliments, small gestures and understanding are three of the keys to a happy marriage.

“It could be a simple rose, a hug, a walk on the beach, telling them how proud you are of them, just doing whatever you can to be a source of joy in the relationship, to make them smile and know that you feel blessed every minute they are in your life,” he wrote.

If you’d like to read the entire blog post, click here.

There you have it, some of the secrets to their happy marriage. Now, if we could just find someone to pay us attention other than a cat, that would be great...

‎Nothing makes me prouder than being the reason my kids are smiling... الحمدلله #afatherslove

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What does it take to be the perfect husband? To me there is no such thing as the perfect husband, we all have our flaws, we all make mistakes, and we all have moments where we need help, but I did read a beautiful story that describes the husband I am trying to become. __ The story says that in heaven Allah will marry a believing woman to her husband from their life on earth if the husband was righteous and treated her well, and the wife would be pleased with that. That is what she would desire. She wouldn’t want any one else. __ When I read that story it speaks to me about how I made my wife feel, rather than all the things I could give her during our lives on earth. So I guess the type of husband I am trying to be is to have treated my wife in a way that when all is said and done, when our lives have passed, when we meet in heaven inshAllah and she could choose anyone, she would still choose me.

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